These rules of etiquette surprise visitors in different countries. photo – micetimes.asia

Rules of conduct and etiquette is quite complicated science, if not more. One thing to know what fork is for salad, and quite another – both using the same plug as not to cause a deadly insult to the host. Etiquette varies from culture to culture, from country to country. What seems to be a gross violation of the rules of good manners in one country can be a model of courtesy in the other.

Not always easy to break the ice when you first meet a new person or at the first visit to someone’s house. Our most common tactic is to try to find something you can praise. “I like your shoes.” “It’s a good tie.” “I just admire what you’ve done with the place.” “Very beautiful sofa.” In most countries such praise, as a rule, lead to the fact that the owners start to smile or blush and say “thank you”.


Thus, the ice begins to melt.

However, such compliments are absolutely unreasonable in the middle East and in African countries such as Nigeria and Senegal. In these countries, the praise is interpreted as a desire to possess a certain valuable object, stored in the house. Due to their customs of hospitality, the host will feel obliged to give the guest the subject, which he praised. In addition, in accordance with tradition, after receiving the gift, the recipient must reply, giving giving an even greater gift. We can only hope that the custom does not extend to the compliments to spouses or children.

In Tanzania, arriving at the appointed time guests are disrespectful. All polite, well-educated people appear 15-30 minutes after the appointed. This is partly due to the fact that not all citizens have cars or even access to public transportation. To insist that guests come at the appointed time, is considered rude. Mexico is also considered polite to be late for a meeting or a party. And if you suddenly are in time, the owners can be just not ready. They might feel insulted due to the fact that they were caught off guard.

The food has always been the most reliable way to upset parents at the dinner table. However, in some countries people will be offended by your use of Cutlery. By eating a Taco or burrito in Mexico with a knife and fork are frowned upon. It’s not necessarily impolite, but it makes a person look like a snob. A similar reason may explain the disapproval, which will apply in Germany to your attempts to use the knife for cutting boiled potatoes. In addition, using the knife to cut the potatoes you can insult the chefs. They see it as a way of saying that cooked potatoes enough otvoren.

Have long debate on “whether or not to tip”. Usually, this boils down to, are we afraid to seem “poor” in the eyes of the waiter. Often the lack of a tip – the cause of scornful looks. It is also a common reason why many came for the first time in any restaurant, never visit it again. Some restaurants have even banned the practice, and to protect their clients from unpleasant moments at the end of the meal.

Japan is ahead of everyone else. The Japanese are not accustomed to tipping, and this often leads to confusion. The waiter wonders why he got extra money and can take a long clumsy attempts to bring them back. More importantly, tipping can be seen as an insult. They are sometimes understood as charity, which implies it is pity that neither the Japanese do not endure. In that case, if the client wants to Express their gratitude, it is best to do this by presenting a small gift. Or, if we transferred the money, then you need to put them in an envelope and then hand it over.

Nowadays, if a visitor asked the waiter for a “doggie bag” (a bag or box in which the visitors some restaurants, mainly Japanese, can carry food that is not eaten, – as it would be for dogs), it is considered a sign of poverty. The waiter might even throw an angry glance at such a visitor, when he is forced to run through the whole restaurant full of customers waiting their orders, for some a bag for the visitor’s eyes more than the stomach. In Ancient Rome, however, the “doggie bag” was a way of life.

Whenever someone of my friends had people over for dinner, he gave the guests a napkin of thin cloth in order to invited guests could take home fruit. It was more of a demand than a proposal as the decision to not take home food was interpreted as an insult to the host. In addition, a guest can quickly get a reputation as rude and ungrateful. “Doggie bag” can also be owe their origin to Ancient China. Give guests white boxes, so they can take the food home, it was considered a courtesy from the owners.

Yes, we are all accustomed to what our parents say to us that we ate every last crumb on the plate and left no food. In some countries, however, a clean plate may confuse owners and possibly insult them. In the Philippines, North Africa, and also in some regions of China if the plate is empty, the host will put her in more food. In North Africa, it even turns into a small game: the host offers a more – guest says no, the host offers again, the guest again refuses, the owner offers one guest and in the end agrees. Only when a guest leave some food on your plate, the host will be sure that he ate. Failure to do so in some situations, it may offend the host. He will take a clean plate to the guest as a signal that the service was not good enough and can decide that the guest considers it cheap.

Flowers are often seen as a universal gift. They are good for first dates, Proms, weddings, funerals, gifts to the sick and an apology. It is important to remember that if you’re not careful, presented flowers can be considered a manifestation of ignorance. Chrysanthemums, lilies, gladioli, and other white flowers are a symbol of mourning and used for funerals in many countries. Carnations decorated with fraternal cemetery in Germany and France. Giving someone a bouquet of white flowers in China, or a carnation in France, you run the risk that it will be considered a “message of death”.

Yellow flowers symbolize hatred or dislike Russia and Iran, and purple flowers – failed in Italy and Brazil. Red flowers, especially roses, in Germany and Italy is only intended to Express romantic feelings. In the Czech Republic, flowers in General are seen as romantic gifts. So, giving your teacher or boss flowers, you may run into a lot of trouble. Even the number of colors may be considered rude. In some countries, such as France and Armenia, an even number of flowers are suitable for happy occasions and the odd numbers refer to the tribulation. At the same time, in countries such as Thailand and China, odd numbers are generally considered lucky and even sinister.

However, in our world there is a large area located in New Caledonia, where the gesture means a wish of wisdom and energy. In Tibet shows the language is seen as a sign of respect when meeting a reputable person. The Tibetans say that this custom comes from the belief that the evil king had a black tongue, and the gesture shows the good will and proves that we are not his incarnation. Perhaps this explains why in the Caroline Islands protruding tongues believed to be a reliable way to banish the demons. But honestly, if the man sticks out tongue, and not brushing his teeth, he will probably be able to expel anyone.

In most countries prihlebyvaja soup in public can lead to unequivocal attitudes in your direction. However, in many Asian countries such as China and Japan, prihlebyvaja soup or noodles is considered as the highest praise. This means that the food is so good that even you can’t wait until dinner to cool down. Anyone burning my mouth on a delicious soup of deep dish will probably agree that this is the truth.

Food without noises when drinking shows that you are unhappy with the food. In Japan, the same is true for tea. Loudly slurping the last SIP of tea, the guest gives notice to the owner that he was finished and satisfied. This cultural difference leads many Japanese visitors to feel constrained in other countries, preventing the Europeans quietly to lunch.

Spitting usually are frowned upon. To spit in someone’s side is considered to be one of the worst insults. Police in the United States regards it as an attack and can shoot you, what they love to do. Members of the Maasai tribe in Eastern Central Africa, however, have a completely different view on many things. They spit at each other as we shake each other’s hands. More precisely, they spit on their hands before shaking hands and just in case again after it.

Most of us are forced to endure the reproaches of older people who follow the rule “tell me specifically, not sprayed”, but the Maasai children have it even harder. The friendly kids who greet their elders, unable to thick spit in the back. Of course, this is done with the best intentions and mean that the elderly wish the child long life, but for us it seems unusual. Friends and relatives are many miles only to spit on the newborn – for the same reason.